Relationships
When relationships feel confusing, draining, or painful, it’s not because you’re “too much” or “not enough.” It’s often because old wounds, unmet needs, and nervous-system patterns show up most strongly in our closest connections.
You might find yourself repeating the same cycles with partners, friends, or family… even when you know what you want to do differently. Or you may feel anxious in relationships, shut down when things get too close, or lose your voice when conflict arises.
Working on relationships is about understanding the deeper patterns beneath communication, boundaries, attachment, and emotional safety, so you can show up in ways that feel true to you.
Why Relationships Feel Hard
Relationships are where our deepest patterns show up. Things like our fears, our needs, our boundaries, our longing to feel safe with others. You may function well in most areas of life, yet still find relationships confusing, overwhelming, or painful. It often reflects past experiences, attachment wounds, or a nervous system that learned to protect you by pulling away, over-giving, or staying hyper-alert.
Whether you struggle with trust, conflict, intimacy, communication, or choosing partners who aren’t good for you, these patterns are learned responses shaped by your history.
Therapy helps you understand where these patterns come from and gently build new ways of relating with yourself and with others that feel secure, steady, and supportive.
What We Work on Together
Together, we work on:
• Understanding your patterns and why you might shut down, overthink, chase, avoid, or cling as adaptations you learned to feel safe.
• Strengthening your sense of self. So you can hold boundaries without guilt, express needs without fear, and trust your own perceptions.
• Improving emotional regulation. Because staying grounded during conflict or closeness is a physiological skill, not a personality trait.
• Rebuilding your capacity for intimacy and trust at a pace that feels right for you, without pressure, and without repeating old cycles.
• Creating new relational experiences. Therapy itself becomes a corrective environment: a safe, steady space where you can practise being heard, understood, and supported, perhaps in ways you never experienced before.
Over time, relationships start to feel clearer and less confusing. You become more attuned to your own needs, more confident setting limits, and more open to the kind of connection that feels nourishing rather than draining.